How to Stop Negative Self-Talk: Stop the Hate and Guilt
It’s easy to fall into negative emotions where you beat yourself up over and over again about being a lousy dad, a loser, a hopeless addict, a person without a future. These thoughts drag you down and feed on each other. It is true that you have to fake it till you make it and this applies to self-confidence as well.
The good thing about counseling is that you can get into the demons and ghosts of the past that lead to these negative self-statements and putting down yourself. But, even without reaching the true roots and origins of the self-anger or self-hatred, you can still take steps to get beyond the thoughts that drag you down.
Look at your strengths. Even if you say you don’t have any, look harder. Did you make someone smile recently or laugh? Did you help someone out? Were you able to fix something in your house or learn something new?
Whether you are in a relationship or not, does not change who you really are. It is easy to get bummed out if you are single or divorced, but the divorce rate is quite high and it’s important to find your bliss inside. Look at if you judge yourself a lot and instead shift your attention away from that. Many of those statements could’ve been what you heard as a child or from a destructive relationship.