http://www.drug-and-alcohol-rehab-info.com/addiction/index.php/resisting-drinking/ Drug Treatment and Alcohol Problem Solutions Fri, 10 Sep 2010 21:02:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.drug-and-alcohol-rehab-info.com/addiction/index.php/resisting-drinking/#comment-9766 monique Tue, 31 Aug 2010 19:31:53 +0000 http://www.drug-and-alcohol-rehab-info.com/addiction/?p=19#comment-9766 Hi Wendy, Leave him! Start a new life...don't tell him where you are going, just pack and leave. I left my abusive boyfriend 7 years ago after many breakups and get together agains. When I finally had enough, and left, determined to never attract such abuse, my dream man walked into my life. We have bought a home and are so happy and harmoniously together. If you can, get a counselor to explore why you have stayed for so long with this guy. he sounds like a nightmare but you must still love him. If he would be your dream man without the alcohol, then you still have to leave him. He has to make a choice you or the beer bottle. Good luck! Hi Wendy,
Leave him! Start a new life…don’t tell him where you are going, just pack and leave. I left my abusive boyfriend 7 years ago after many breakups and get together agains. When I finally had enough, and left, determined to never attract such abuse, my dream man walked into my life. We have bought a home and are so happy and harmoniously together. If you can, get a counselor to explore why you have stayed for so long with this guy. he sounds like a nightmare but you must still love him. If he would be your dream man without the alcohol, then you still have to leave him. He has to make a choice you or the beer bottle. Good luck!

]]> http://www.drug-and-alcohol-rehab-info.com/addiction/index.php/resisting-drinking/#comment-1041 Meredi Fri, 07 Aug 2009 02:18:42 +0000 http://www.drug-and-alcohol-rehab-info.com/addiction/?p=19#comment-1041 Why are you staying with him? I'm asking the same question to myself as well. Why are you staying with him?
I’m asking the same question to myself as well.

]]> http://www.drug-and-alcohol-rehab-info.com/addiction/index.php/resisting-drinking/#comment-683 Wendy Schmidt Sat, 30 May 2009 04:54:56 +0000 http://www.drug-and-alcohol-rehab-info.com/addiction/?p=19#comment-683 I am my end rope, I am engaged 19 years, I am 43 years old, and verbally and emotionally abused and drained by my fiancee the unreasonable alcoholic. He comes from awhole backround of drinkers and uneducated people. He drinks excessively daily. He is a fuctional alcoholic, but his bosses are also his buddies and they use him. I am spoken to like a piece of garbage. I always heard if you lose weight for every ten pounds I'll give up a day of drining. Then it was if you stop smoking I will quit drinking. So, I lost 100 lbs and quit smoking, and he's more abusive and drunk then ever. Totally, unpredictable, my family is broken apart, he can't cope with no stress, and I am the blame for everything. He records arguments, after I am furious and cursing because of things he's done ,and he plays this for his friends to make them think it's me starting. He runs out the door constantly, and blames me for why he didn't come home. I constantly hear-leave me if you don't like what I do- I don't have to explain myself, I am a grown man I don't need a lecture from you b---h. We have no communication, I am losing my house in Pa. because he decided after buying a new truck, he couldn't commute on the weekends. It gets worse by the day. EVERYTHING is always my fault, I'm a bitch, a nag, ungrateful etc. He never takes me to a restaurant that doesn't serve alcohol. We go nowhere. If he wants to go out, he goes alone and only where he's drinking and they tell him how great he is, so that he'll fix there car for a six pack or do some kind of free help, that's why he's so loved. My family can't believe I am still with him after I worked my whole life, lost it all, and I still try to help, I even went to therapy and almost had a breakdown with all this. Oh, now because of that everything is how I am a crazy nut, I lost it. What do I do now, I am not working , because I am trying to find a job after relocating because of him,I worked our whole relationship, but now I am hearing this crap. what really gets me is some people tell me move on, I wouldn't take that, are the same people hanging with him and making him think his the greatest. And he believes what someone else says, even when I try to explain it, no use. He constantly tries to hurt my feelings and when he wants to be intimate-that is another issue. I am hearing now how he can't take me anymore, once in a blue moon he'll say I will quit drinking but don't ride my ass or watch me, I do it my way. He'll go 1-2 days and look out- guess what I stressed him out or he needed just a few beers on the weekend. He sneaking Brandy bottles in the garage and drinking beers too at the same time. I am never going to win and it's affecting our lives badly. He hardly eats and he's blown up in his stomach and face. But, his blood work from 4 years ago was good so, he thinks he's good to go. I keep warning him, I am in the medical field as a med. asst. and he won't listen. I am my end rope, I am engaged 19 years, I am 43 years old, and verbally and emotionally abused and drained by my fiancee the unreasonable alcoholic. He comes from awhole backround of drinkers and uneducated people. He drinks excessively daily. He is a fuctional alcoholic, but his bosses are also his buddies and they use him. I am spoken to like a piece of garbage. I always heard if you lose weight for every ten pounds I’ll give up a day of drining. Then it was if you stop smoking I will quit drinking. So, I lost 100 lbs and quit smoking, and he’s more abusive and drunk then ever. Totally, unpredictable, my family is broken apart, he can’t cope with no stress, and I am the blame for everything. He records arguments, after I am furious and cursing because of things he’s done ,and he plays this for his friends to make them think it’s me starting. He runs out the door constantly, and blames me for why he didn’t come home. I constantly hear-leave me if you don’t like what I do- I don’t have to explain myself, I am a grown man I don’t need a lecture from you b—h. We have no communication, I am losing my house in Pa. because he decided after buying a new truck, he couldn’t commute on the weekends. It gets worse by the day. EVERYTHING is always my fault, I’m a bitch, a nag, ungrateful etc. He never takes me to a restaurant that doesn’t serve alcohol. We go nowhere. If he wants to go out, he goes alone and only where he’s drinking and they tell him how great he is, so that he’ll fix there car for a six pack or do some kind of free help, that’s why he’s so loved. My family can’t believe I am still with him after I worked my whole life, lost it all, and I still try to help, I even went to therapy and almost had a breakdown with all this. Oh, now because of that everything is how I am a crazy nut, I lost it. What do I do now, I am not working , because I am trying to find a job after relocating because of him,I worked our whole relationship, but now I am hearing this crap. what really gets me is some people tell me move on, I wouldn’t take that, are the same people hanging with him and making him think his the greatest. And he believes what someone else says, even when I try to explain it, no use. He constantly tries to hurt my feelings and when he wants to be intimate-that is another issue. I am hearing now how he can’t take me anymore, once in a blue moon he’ll say I will quit drinking but don’t ride my ass or watch me, I do it my way. He’ll go 1-2 days and look out- guess what I stressed him out or he needed just a few beers on the weekend. He sneaking Brandy bottles in the garage and drinking beers too at the same time. I am never going to win and it’s affecting our lives badly. He hardly eats and he’s blown up in his stomach and face. But, his blood work from 4 years ago was good so, he thinks he’s good to go. I keep warning him, I am in the medical field as a med. asst. and he won’t listen.

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