Stop Addictions Resolve: New Year Around the Corner
With the end of December around the corner, there is a power to a new year and making 2010 your best year ever. Think about how if you continue to repeat your life, it will have the same outcome. The same cause will have the same effect over and over. If you have a knee jerk reaction to someone cutting you off in traffic, you get angry, you scream and honk horn and may even retailiate. This makes you agitated and it always has same scenario unless you decide to change.
Instead of bringing in the new year with alcohol or drugs, bring it in with your new sense of self. Don’t think that the same habits of 2009 you did will do better in 2010. Why would they? They are going to result in the similar feelings of guilt, shame and sadness. When you rely upon alcohol or drugs to soothe the pain, it is temporary at best. After a while, it isn’t even useful because you feel awful anyway as it is too hard to disguise the inner feelings of unhappiness.
In the meditation class I have been going to they as, “What is a true source of happiness”? This is a great question. Also, we become slaves to our minds. Why should the thoughts we have boss us aroun? How is this going to be a guide when many of the thoughts are ways to distract ourselves, emotionally react, rationalize and not face ourselves. Suze Orman had on her show saturday night various ways that people rationalize spending more money than they have. It was interesting to see how we justify things and try to give excuses that don’t really hold up when investigated.
If you are about to smoke pot, have some alcholic beverages , do coke or speed etc take a 3 minute pause and promise yourself you will reflect in that time period. Really be honest with yourself about if you’ll feel any better afterwards and if this is a viable way to go on. You actually get a sense of renewal when you do deep reflections because it helps to stop the old automatic patterns that rob you of your life and true freedom.
Thanks for the post.
I think reflecting back on the year, prior to new years eve is a good way to change how you will celebrate the new year. Honestly sit back and ask yourself how the year was on a personal level. Sometimes doing this helps us make our choices on how we want to start the new year off right.
And old saying I heard once, “How you wake up NewYearsDay is how you spend your year.” Think about that.
It isn’t easy when all your friends want to get high to find something to new. It is very lonely though I guess I can go to an na meeting in my town to at least do something.